The best parenting advice I ever got didn’t come from another parent. It wasn’t even about parenting. Nonetheless, I’ve used this advice every single day of my 10+ years of parenting, and it’s the most valuable tool in my toolkit.
Some of the best parental skills are discussed here in brief for the betterment of both parents and childrens it include following points!
Active listening:
Listening to your child's thoughts and feelings without interrupting or judging them.
Consistency:
Being consistent in your expectations, discipline, and daily routines.
Positive reinforcement:
Praising and rewarding good behavior to encourage positive habits.
Communication:
Clear and effective communication with your child, including using age-appropriate language.
Setting boundaries:
Establishing clear rules and limits to help your child understand what is acceptable behavior.
Empathy:
Understanding and responding to your child's emotional needs.
Patience:
Practicing patience and understanding when your child makes mistakes or needs extra support.
Respect:
Treating your child with respect and modeling respectful behavior.
Flexibility:
Being open to change and adapting to your child's evolving needs.
Love and affection:
Showing your child love and affection through physical touch, kind words, and quality time spent together.
Always remember that your children are people, not possessions. Set a good example for them. Listen to them. Always tell them they can talk to you about anything, and mean it. I told that to my kids starting when they were too young to even understand. I also told them I might be mad (depending on what they told me) but I'd get over it and we'd work together to solve whatever problem they have. I've never had any issues with them lying or rebelling. They learned about respect from me--I always made sure I earned their respect.
Also, when they're little, don't hit them, and never assume they're just being bad for the heck of it. Kids misbehave because they have some unmet need. Find what it is and solve it.
Always give them the benefit of the doubt. Don't toss their room or invade their privacy unless you have reason to believe they're involved in something dangerous, and then only if talking to them doesn't work.
Teach them good judgement and let them use it. Instead of forbidding them from seeing person X, calmly tell them your concerns, and that you trust they'll make the right decision about whether this person is truly a good friend and a good person, or if they should limit their contact.
Let them know you're in their corner, but you also have high standards for them. If they get in trouble at school, listen to the teacher's report--let's face it, teachers rarely have reasons to lie about your kid's behavior. But also listen to your kid. Practice saying, “What could you have done differently?” Teach them to take responsibility for their actions, and never make them regret that they did.
One thing you should keep in mind is that if your relationship with your child is not good, they're not going to listen to you.
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